The conservative 50's gave way to an era of sexual revolution and explicit freedom in the 60's, where sex was sex and people literally got into the 'swing' of things with the art of partner swapping alive and well, while the 70's saw us 'blowing' away our sexual inhibitions

We where told in the 80's that anal sex was a 'whole lot of fun' and in the 90's women 'came' out on top as the reverse cowgirl rode her way into bedrooms across the globe.

But the naughties saw a different type of sexual trend being born where 3 in a bed was no longer a crowd and people where literally saying roll over. Ménage a trois was the new dish on the menu for sexually indulgent people everywhere. Couples introduced a guest star to their beds for one night only, while saucy singles offered themselves up as the extra ingredient in a sex filled sandwich.

However the end of the naughties gave way to two new phenomenas; a decade that didn't have a catchy ring to it and a new twist on the idea of threesomes. No longer did this three-way adventure involve 6 plump butt cheeks, but instead those extra pair of hands where replaced with the not so softly touch of a hidden agenda.

Most notably this new sexual trend has become widely publicised in the lives of our illustrious celebrities, as laid bare in excruciating detail on the front pages of our newspapers. Enveloped between the 4 writhing legs of the entangled lovers is that bed partner whose caress is longer lasting than any sweet filled kiss and it can ruin marriages, careers and over all lives.

A hidden agenda can be brought to the scenario by any of the participants and it is there not to seek sexual gratification but to gain all else that it can. Instead of tasting skin wet with sexual excitement it is tasting its proposed 15 minutes of fame. While the embracing lovers are being swept away by each others passion the hidden agenda is being swept away by the idea of getting one over on a spouse they feel has neglected them.

The climax for the hidden agenda is not sexual fulfillment but the accumulation of notoriety, financial gain and personal gratification (while most of the rest of us think we are lucky to squeeze an orgasm out of the situation).

This new sexual trend pushes the boundaries even further than before and raises the stakes to a whole new level. It would appear that only the more adventurous and sexually confident of us would be indulging in it but when you think of it, are there ever only two of us in bed or are we always having a threesome, after all people always have hidden agendas!

When dating online remember that sometimes people have hidden agendas too so make sure to ask the right questions and plenty of them!

For years now there has been a debate raging between scientists and psychologists and more importantly between men and women. The question of whether we are inherently predisposed to cheat on our other half by our genetic make up or whether it is a subsidiary effect of our environment is widely known as part of the ‘nature vs nurture’ debate.

The under laying question is; presented with the right opportunity would the average person succumb to their environment and cheat on their partner or would they regardless of circumstances refrain due to intrinsic human nature?

When looking at illustrious public figures whose indiscretions of this kind are widely publicised we cant help but wonder whether they where always destined to cheat or was it merely due to the environment they where exposed to. Is the high octane setting of money, casinos, expensive champagne and the every ready montage of fame hungry individuals available for casual sex natures over-ruling nemesis? OR is this view merely a convenient means of concealing the essence of human nature in some people, after all regular Joe soaps like you and I also cheat.

Is it as simple as that if you come from a home where you have witnessed the longevity of marriage, you are more inclined to replicate this due to behavioural traits nurtured in you in your upbringing.

Or do we cheat on our partners regardless of the environment we are exposed to because it is human nature to do so. Just as we might cheat in other aspects of daily life.

When considering all the dynamics involved in the debate you cant help but wonder where the issue of ‘free will’ comes in. Is there a Tiger in all of us or is that just a convenient excuse for bad behaviour?

When it comes to dealing with the opposite sex have you had the misfortune to make the number one cardinal mistake? The one that brands you a whore quicker than if you where an alco-pop filled teenager with their knickers round their ankles pressed against a grubby wall. Have you indulged in the action that is the equivalent to verbal diarrhea?

Then you too like I have been emotionally slutty!!

It usually works hand in hand with two other devious culprits and that is extreme nerves or intense alcohol consumption. You know the scenario, you are on the highly anticipated first date with the dream guy and all is going well until you steamroller him with the entire back catalogue of your sordid dating history warts and all.

Ex boyfriends, emotional insecurities, graphically detailed break-ups and ensuing emotional break-downs are laid bare at break neck speed to your horror. The only thing more horrifying than this is the subsequent look of bewilderment and terror on your dates' face!! Realisation that back tracking will only intensify the disaster leads only to one thought... and that is 'I wish I had a delete button'.

This is why I would through personal experience advocate online dating. Communication online holds a multitude of benefits especially for those of us that are prone to a bout emotional sluttiness.

Firstly and foremost you tend to be in the comfort of a familar environment which automatically elimates a certain degree of nerves. Your correspondng online date can not see you therefore your concentration will not be waviered bys thoughts of fashion faux paus.

Moreover because you have to physically type your conversation as oppose to merely opening your mouth and expelling gas, you are afforded a few milliseconds to indulge in the little known thought process. Therefore you are more likely to correspond with something cohesive and possibly even funny (at a long shot)!!

In summary you can type, delete, re-type, edit and proff-read before you unlease your own personal brand of intellectual garbage on what could possible turn out to be the person of your dreams.